Recognize a person , Good or Bad

1. Observe Their Actions (Not Just Words)

• Do they keep promises?
• Do their actions match what they say?
• Are they consistent over time?

A trustworthy person shows consistency. Someone who frequently lies, manipulates, or breaks commitments may be harmful.

2. Notice How They Treat Others

• Are they respectful to people who can’t benefit them?
• Do they show kindness to strangers, service staff, or animals?
• Do they gossip or enjoy others’ failures?

How someone treats people with less power often reveals their true character.

3. Look at Their Intentions

• Do they help without expecting something in return?
• Are they supportive of your growth?
• Do they compete in unhealthy ways?

Good-hearted people generally want mutual growth, not control.

4. Watch for Red Flags

• Some warning signs:
• Constant blaming of others
• Extreme jealousy or possessiveness
• Lack of empathy
• Manipulation or guilt-tripping
• Disrespecting boundaries

One mistake doesn’t define someone—but repeated harmful behavior is important.

5. How Do You Feel Around Them?

• Your emotional response matters.
• Do you feel safe, valued, and relaxed?
• Or anxious, drained, and insecure?

Your body and emotions often sense patterns before your mind fully understands them.

6. Everyone Has Flaws

• A “good” person:
• Admits mistakes
• Apologizes sincerely
• Tries to improve
• A harmful person:
• Avoids responsibility
• Repeats the same hurtful actions
• Justifies bad behavior

Important Reminder

No one is 100% good or 100% bad. Focus on:

Patterns, not one-time events

Accountability, not perfection How they consistently impact your well-being